Boyfriend: What's in the title?

Things couldn’t be better with your guy! For the past few months, you’ve been on romantic dates, met a bunch of his friends, had deep conversations, and shared some super amazing kisses. In fact, all evidence suggests that you’ve found yourself a pretty awesome boyfriend… the only question: is that what you call him?

In our crazy world of flirting, dating and hooking up, it’s become difficult to decide when he officially is or should be called your “boyfriend.” Is it something that comes after a certain amount of time—one month? three months? six? Or is it something to be decided early on, essential to establishing a real relationship?

And what truly defines a boyfriend—his title or his actions? And is one even valuable without the reassurance of the other?

Let’s say, that although the guy is clearly into you, he hasn’t brought up the “boyfriend/girlfriend” titles, or he’s made it clear that he’d rather avoid them altogether. Does this mean he’s not willing to commit to you? Or that he’s embarrassed to label you as his own?

Many women would argue that the titles are key to a serious commitment, which is key to a serious relationship. And not to argue against being "official" with your guy—titles and all—but I just think that we get so worked up about the “boyfriend” part, that we don’t remember that his actions should speak louder, and be more important, than any formal titles. As Juliet said, "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

But on the other hand, I absolutely can’t tolerate (and I hope you don’t either!!) a guy who freely gives out the title, but uses it as an excuse to treat you poorly. Calling himself your “boyfriend” should never be used as leverage or justification. In fact, I hope you never give your time, and much less the “boyfriend” title, to someone unworthy of your affection.

But what do you think? Is the “boyfriend” title important to you? Do you think having it changes the dynamic of a relationship?